Mother's Day...121 st Day 05-01

by Administrator 1. May 2011 04:17

 

The Mother’s day…is over…well, at least for another year… but being a mother is never over…not a big revelation just simply the statement of 365 days and 24 hours a  day…of changed perspective…Mothers’ perspective…

I remember, when I was pregnant with my first child and at the same time my father was staying at my home for couple of months…We were both avid skiers…couldn’t wait to get back to the mountains to ski again…actually, I was seriously planning to ski when my future son would turn three months old…My father looked at me…and with serious doubt in his voice announced…”I don’t think …you would want to go…” I was quite sure, I really ...really wanted to ski…three months is old enough...to leave him for maybe three days…My father just didn’t know my adventurous spirit…but I did… I was convinced of that….Well…...Actually, I didn’t….My dad was right… the last thing I wanted to do, it was to leave my son …for even a few hours…

We all have an idea about parenthood and no matter how much we research…it will still surprise us...The intensity of emotion to care, protect, love and give the best is … unparallel…We are catapulted from our wants, needs and physical body to this new born human being , overtaking our world and …giving a different meaning to it…

When I was growing up…I was quite a tomboy…preferred sports and mischievous adventures to “playing home”…or just with the dolls…Honestly, I found it boring…I still remember having “basic” three dolls …but never playing …just nicely displaying them in my room as a pledge of being the “regular” girl…Except…later on…when, I got a doll with trunk full of clothes and wigs to change….this one… I loved…

So…playing soccer, shooting the” water rocket ships” and “destroying the wasps nests” was my idea of fun…When the teenage years arrived, I was horrified and amused to see my legs full of scrapes, scars and the lovely ...blue-black color …”There is no way …those legs will ever look like a lady like…” I announced one day …examining them...The doctor who saw me on the regular basics, in  fruitful attempts of ” putting me back” to a workable condition …always greeted me with...”My favorite patient…you are back…so soon…”

Don’t get me wrong, I loved being a girl ( especially clothes…shoes…)…but climbing the Mount Everest …sounded so much better then starting the family… Felt cheated …a little bit by the Universe…double standard for girls …expecting them to become mothers…cook, take care of the home and family... It was a boring life…I wanted the adventure…of the lifetime… Be careful what you wished for…

I was ready to have a baby …wanted and waited for him…but truly, in the moment of his first movement inside of me…I realized how lucky I am to experience this … For me, being a mother was a slow birth of the appreciation to be a woman, able to take part in the miracle of the life…

When pregnant with the second one…I would worry a little…”How will I divide my love for them…can I be a good mom with a limited time…shared between two of them? There was no need to worry…I found out what billions of other mothers did …before me…Mother’s heart doesn’t need to be divided between two, three, four or more kids… it just grows…expands……loving each of them the same …

I suppose , we never stop learning…about being a mother…as our kids grow ,mature , leave the house… have kids on their own…Our love and understanding of being a mom changes and grows too… I will always remember their first day in school … being happy for them, but nervous and missing the together time… Every day, you share your life… taking one step at the time… caring, teaching, guiding until…  you need to give what is their birthright … freedom and independence…to be their own person…make their own decision and live their own life…

No one said its always  easy to be a Mom…but it is adventure of the lifetime…the one, I would never change…the one which changed me… the most ...The best” Yoga for life” of self discovery , quiet wisdom and learning how to love …without limits or conditions.

As I watch my daughter …I know she can do anything she puts her mind to… shaping her life, following her dreams and passions. Quietly, I hope, she will also become a mother… Our choice is not in climbing Mount Everest or being a mom…it’s in choosing smart ways to experience life from multidimensional point of view…or someone would say …a little Yang and a little Yin….

 

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The Little Prince

"People where you live," the little prince said, "grow five thousand roses in one garden... yet they don't find what they're looking for..."

"They don't find it," I answered.

"And yet what they're looking for could be found in a single rose, or a little water..."

"Of course," I answered.

And the little prince added, "But eyes are blind. You have to look with the heart."

 

 

 

 

 

 

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