Flexibility 113th Day 04-23

by Administrator 23. April 2011 03:22

Many years ago as a student of psychology… it was most likely during a freshmen year; I’ve met this boy who was an exchange student from India. I still vividly remember our conversation, which took place in front of the Jagiellonia University in Krakow. We were standing in the area surrounded by beautiful old trees, both of us too late for one of the classes. My car broke down and I was not happy about that. Full of fiery passion, I was telling him what have happened …clearly upset about the turns of events that morning.

 He listened to me politely with peaceful attention and then went on telling me why he missed his class… as the series of “unfortunate events” unfolded, leading toward his not very lucky morning, which included some very rude people…He was not moved by that experience at all …not even angry at the people who treated him in most insensitive way…I was beginning to be angry in his place…at injustice…thoughtlessness of others…but he was not… He assured me, giving me a sweet smile that its perfectly all right …He explained to me, that he doesn’t get upset about things like that…just releases it…letting it go and accepting what happens…or doesn’t’ It may sound strange but apparently up to this moment, I have never met anyone so “easy going” and peaceful…not demanding, but totally accepting the experiences in his life..

 I was speechless…thinking …”he is an alien”, strange “creature”…and wondering why is he so calm and passive… It was my first real introduction to this way of perceiving reality and I must admit it took me many years to be able to relate to that feeling from internal point of view. I admired that quality but it was very foreign in substance to me…I saw myself as a noble fighter against “injustice”, actively choosing my way in life, filled and fuelled by passion… Nevertheless, this moment was like a seed, slowly growing and maturing in my awareness, which was puzzled with “different reality”…full of surrendering to the flow of life.

The next lessons came while raising my kids. I have four children; born about 2-3 years apart…so …I had to became very efficient with quick change of plans, learning not to get disappointed if something didn’t go as planned. It was more of self preservation quality keeping me in a happy mood, than philosophical ideology. Other option of dwelling on disappointments was simply not acceptable …after all who wants life like that, filled with dark colors. Flexibility became my motto and then, an idea of a “big picture “in life emerged. Nothing is set in stone, and as much as I believe in planning, I also endorse quick change of plans to accommodate the circumstances.

  So, the idea of flexibility and its crucial importance, as one of main lessons in life was born in my conscience. I truly believe it helps to be more in sync with nature…with irregular shapes, flowing like water or waves of energy in constant motion and changing. Our survival depends on it…how fast we can adjust and find the optimal flow for that moment. The romantic idea of hero/ fighter against life opposition is quite intoxicating…but question remains …of how much of our life energy are we willing to give to force and dominate our way through it? Isn’t it better to find the path which was meant for us and at the end leading us much farther than “kicking and screaming”…Choice belongs to us, and if we can quiet our ego… we have a chance to find stillness full of motion, action directed toward agreement, peacefulness in the middle of commotion and acceptance which doesn’t spell being passive.



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The Little Prince

"People where you live," the little prince said, "grow five thousand roses in one garden... yet they don't find what they're looking for..."

"They don't find it," I answered.

"And yet what they're looking for could be found in a single rose, or a little water..."

"Of course," I answered.

And the little prince added, "But eyes are blind. You have to look with the heart."








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